Great escort etiquette is essential to making a favourable first impression.
Nowadays there’s a lot that goes into making sure a client is sound.
Most clients will be familiar with the verification process – sharing references, LinkedIns, and official docs. Maybe a FaceTime or two.
That information is always helpful, but it certainly isn’t everything.
The truth is, I rely mainly on gut instinct to decide whether to meet a client for the first time. I’ve honed this instinct over the years and it rarely (if ever) let’s me down!
There are certain things I look out for, which immediately tell me this is a client I want to see! I like to refer to these as my client “green flags” and they are all rooted in excellent escort etiquette.
Whether you’re meeting a provider for the first time or looking to charm an ATF, following these basic rules can make the difference between an ok encounter and an exceptional one!
Always reach out with a warm and friendly text or email.
An email that addresses me by name, shares some information about yourself (age, occupation, where you’re from, etc) and finishes with “I’d love to meet with you” immediately puts you in my good graces. It also means you”ll get a quicker response.
There is something about “Hi, are you available this weekend for an outcall?” that feels too detached and anonymous. Sometimes I respond to these messages and sometimes I don’t.
I find that dates beginning with that warm email almost always turn out better than those that start with an impersonal message. I think it has a lot to do with me feeling totally comfortable going into things.
Limit texts to setting up an appointment, even if you’ve met the provider before and have rapport.
To succeed in this industry requires some level of compartmentalization. When I’m off the clock I am fully immersed in my own life and use time with my boyfriend and friends to recharge.
I completely understand wanting to text to say hello. Sometimes I’ll do this myself! But I do appreciate when clients save the big chat for our next session. It means I can give you my full and undivided attention and keep my free time, well…free!
Be consistent in your communication and planning up to the appointment.
Many of my clients are American business travellers who often have unpredictable schedules. We’ll commit to a date weeks in advance but I always know there’s a high probability our plans will change. That’s simply par for the course with business travel.
I can be confident that an appointment is going ahead if you:
(1) clearly commit to a date, time and place early on;
(2) check in with me to reconfirm a few days before we’re due to meet;
(3) let me know that you’ve arrived in London and that we’re good to go for our date.
It might be overkill, but I’ll also send an email to reconfirm the morning of. I know some providers are not keen on a lot of communication before an appointment, but it’s very important to me.
If a client tells me he’ll come back to me on Tuesday to confirm our plans and doesn’t email me until Thursday, this is a clear sign that he’s not committed and will likely cancel later.
While cancellations are inevitable, giving as much notice as possible is hugely important. It’s considerate and gives me the opportunity to fill the slot so that I can keep a steady income.
“Dress in whatever you feel most comfortable”
Any client who tells me this before we meet has already shown himself to be a potential favorite.
There’s nothing wrong with an outfit request – I get them all the time and will gladly oblige – but there is something about feeling like I don’t need to dress to impress that immediately puts me at ease.
Having talked to other providers, I know this is something they greatly appreciate too.
Refrain from asking personal details, including her real name or home address.
I give all new providers the same advice: if a client asks for your personal name early on, run for the hills.
In all my years of working, this is the one action that I can confidently say screams “problem client” and guarantees further boundary violations later on.
Some men may also ask very specific questions in a first or second meet (“which college did you go to?”) or request a home address to send a gift.
Be mindful of how much information you’re asking of a provider and whether you might be overstepping her boundaries. Let her volunteer this kind of information if / when she feels ready to.
Small, thoughtful gestures go a very long way.
Some clients will wonder whether they should bring a gift when meeting a provider for the first time.
Let me assure you – the vast majority of men do not bring gifts and I’m never disappointed by that!
However, over the years I’ve seen clients make small gestures that I’ve really appreciated. For example, sometimes a client will offer to grab me a coffee on his way to my incall. Usually I’m caffeinated, but this happened once on a very cold Chicago morning when I didn’t have the courage to make my usual coffee run – and it was a godsend!
I also had another client on tour who I slotted in last minute for a 12-2pm incall. I was touched when he brought me lunch. I was in the middle of a food desert and had planned to starve until dinnertime.
hadn’t had time to grab some food and had just planned to just starve until dinnertime.
I value these thoughtful gestures as much as gifts from my wishlist.
If you have the time, send a follow up thank you email.
Most of my clients drop me a little note after our session to let me know that they appreciated my time and would like to see me again.
Although I can usually tell that the session has gone well, it’s still nice to receive the positive feedback. It means I’m more confident in reaching out to you in the future when I’m in your city to suggest that we meet again.
Keep an eye on her rates and adjust accordingly.
If your regular provider increases her rates, it can be difficult to know whether you’re grandfathered in. Equally, it can be awkward to ask.
I ultimately think it’s the provider’s responsibility to inform you of any rate changes, but it can be a difficult conversation for us to have, especially if it’s with a valued regular.
Recently it happened that I saw a regular here in London after bumping up my rates quite significantly. I hadn’t mentioned the increase to him, but when I opened the envelope after our session, I found he’d matched my new rate.
If your provider changes her fee and you (1) can afford it and (2) think she’s worth it, I recommend adjusting accordingly. Matching her rates without needing to be asked is the best way to express to her that she’s valued.
Follow this escort etiquette and I guarantee you’ll see a difference (especially with me!)
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